On Grief
The grief that accompanies the loss of saying goodbye to those we love holds the power of alchemic transformation. As a culture, however, we are so quick to:
judge
rush
avoid
repress
supress
exile
banish
the parts of us carrying the painful burden and sadness of heartache and loss.
Healing becomes possible when we stop denying our experience by consciously choosing to interrupt this deep conditioning and lovingly turn towards our grieving parts instead.
An opening happens when we compassionately witness and lean into the messages our grief carries…when we remember to pause in the transitionary space of not quite knowing what we may be leaving behind and who we are becoming.
We soften as we open to uncertainty and the deep wisdom of heartbreak through the crumbling of our familiar routines and rhythms.
Slowing down allows time for grief’s inherent reorganization, inviting us to embrace the fullness of its Divine expression.
There is a space of expansion when we meet our grief with respect and care, through ritual and honour of our sadness, when we allow ourselves to cry a river of tears, and embody our entire mosaic of feelings.
Comfort is here in the present moment and the lengthening of our breath.
Grace is shared through communities of compassionate others who can hold us in our truth, no matter how messy or painful, who offer us tenderness and solace, and meet us exactly as we are and for as long as the journey takes.
Love your grieving parts 💕
Grief Support Near Okotoks and Online in Alberta
Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and it isn’t something you need to carry alone. As a Registered Psychologist, I offer grief counselling in person at my studio south of Okotoks, a short, scenic drive from Calgary, and online for people anywhere in Alberta. Together, we make space for every part of your grief, at the pace it needs.
When it might help to reach out
Your grief feels just as heavy months later, or is getting heavier
It’s hard to sleep, eat, work or take care of yourself
You feel numb, stuck, or unable to talk about your loss with the people around you
You’d simply like a steady, compassionate person to walk alongside you
Support can help at any point in the journey.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it normal for grief to last a long time?
Yes. Grief has no set timeline. It can come in waves, quiet down, and return around anniversaries, holidays or unexpected moments.
What does it mean to turn toward grief?
It means noticing your sadness with compassion instead of judging, rushing or pushing it away. That might look like pausing, crying, breathing, creating a small ritual, or letting someone you trust witness what you’re carrying.
When should I see a psychologist for grief?
Whenever it feels too heavy to hold on your own, or whenever you’d like support. You don’t need a certain level of distress to deserve care.
Can I do grief counselling online?
Yes. I offer online counselling for people anywhere in Alberta, as well as in-person sessions near Okotoks.
Is grief counselling covered by benefits?
Many extended health plans cover sessions with a Registered Psychologist. Coverage varies, so check with your provider.
Ready to talk?
If something here felt familiar, I’d love to hear from you. Book a free 15-minute consultation, or call or text 403-807-1428.
If you’re in crisis or thinking about ending your life, please call or text 9-8-8 (Suicide Crisis Helpline) or call 911.
About Toni, Registered Psychologist
Toni Harris is a Registered Psychologist offering in-person and online counselling, horse guided experiences, and retreats near Okotoks and Calgary, Alberta. She hosts seasonal gatherings for anyone moving through a season of change.